{"id":394,"date":"2002-12-02T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2002-12-02T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lanuera.com\/cmwp\/?p=394"},"modified":"2002-12-02T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2002-12-02T00:00:00","slug":"redfern-reflections-reality-and-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/church-mouse.net\/?p=394","title":{"rendered":"Redfern Reflections &#8211; Reality and Relationships"},"content":{"rendered":"<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\"><span class=\"dropcap\">I<\/span>                            have been attending Mass at <\/span> <st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">St                            Vincent<\/span><\/st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">&#8216;s                            Redfern pretty consistently since 1983. Through my involvement                            with TCFA (A national Catholic university association)                            I had meet Ted Kennedy and had contact with his church                            at Redfern. Since leaving uni, I had lived and taught                            in the outer urban wilderness of <\/span><st1:place><st1:placename><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Green<\/span><\/st1:placename><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">                            <\/span><st1:placetype><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Valley<\/span><\/st1:placetype><\/st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">                            and in the underdevelopment of <\/span><st1:country-region><st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Sri                            Lanka<\/span><\/st1:place><\/st1:country-region><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">.                            Returning to <\/span><st1:city><st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Sydney<\/span><\/st1:place><\/st1:city><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">                            sick, I went to live with my parents and began going                            to church at the parish in which I had grown up. Each                            Sunday I would walk out feeling angry and alienated.                            It was so neat and organised with its ministry for this                            and that but there didn&#8217;t seem to be a place where I                            could make sense of the multitude of questions that                            my contact with the violence, pain, inequality and resilience                            of the human experience had posed for me. My trying                            to make sense of the messiness of life didn&#8217;t belong                            in the neatness of this church. My discomfort continued                            until one day I remember clearly deciding as I walked                            out the door, that I would not come back because it                            just wasn&#8217;t good for me to be there. So from then on,                            I&#8217;ve become a Redfern Regular and gradually it has become                            a very important part of my life.<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">&nbsp;<\/div>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Back                            in 1983, the music was provided by Sister Ursula, with                            the help of one of her mates. Sister Ursula was over                            ninety at the time (or so it seemed). Her organ playing                            was uneven, to put it mildly. The <span class=\"BodyTextItalicChar\"><span style=\"\"><em>Living                            Parish <\/em><\/span><\/span>hymns would get slower and                            slower, when a rush of adrenaline would then have us                            catapulting through numerous stanzas. It always seemed                            that the poorer the job the congregation was making                            of the hymn, the more verses we would sing. I think                            it would be fair to say, that Sister Ursula and her                            sidekick would not have got a gig anywhere else, particularly                            in the parish from which I had just come but they symbolised                            what was special about Redfern. People contributed their                            talents and were valued just as they were. Later I discovered                            that Sister Ursula and her helper had both given decades                            of their lives to being with the poor of Redfern and                            I felt even more honoured to have known them.<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Of                            course one couldn&#8217;t talk of Redfern without reference                            to Ted. His homilies challenged but didn&#8217;t anger, his                            message was of inclusion and of love. Ted has the gift                            of putting a twist on things in such a way that you                            come to see things differently. One of my favourite                            is his description of the gospel as a murder mystery,                            not a &ldquo;who done it?&rdquo; but a &ldquo;why did they do it?&rdquo; His                            constant reminder of the poor, what they have to give                            us and their centrality in the gospel message is both                            powerful and empowering. I love the Eucharist prayer                            that Ted often uses, particularly that line about &ldquo;people                            who come unexpectedly into our lives&#8217;. That seems so                            aptly to describe the people who find themselves at                            <\/span><st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">St                            Vincent<\/span><\/st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">&#8216;s.                            Regardless of their formal denomination I see them all                            as RCs, Redfern Chums.<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">In                            many ways, more impressive than what Ted said, was what                            he did. Although it is many years ago, I have vivid                            images of a wedding at Redfern. Ted was not officiating                            but part of the congregation, when a sad and near-hysterical                            crying began outside the church. It was Patty Newman                            a very fragile, damaged, aboriginal woman. I sat in                            the church feeling very annoyed with her for mucking                            up my friends&rdquo; wedding and wanting to go out and keep                            her quiet. Ted went out, gave her a big hug and brought                            her back into the church were she sat happily cradled                            in his arms. I still had much to learn! Redfern seems                            to be at its best at Easter. The three main ceremonies                            with their distinctive themes and moods, provide the                            hooks for us, in a very real way to make sense of our                            own and the society&#8217;s sharing of bread, pain and joy.                            I&#8217;ve always referred to it as &ldquo;doing the Trifecta&rdquo;.                            Over the years there have been some moments in those                            ceremonies that have been very special. Christopher                            Lyon&#8217;s near total emersion in the foot washing bowls                            as a squirming two year old caused such hilarity that                            even the ever focused Ted was compelled to join in.                            The involvement of Glen and others in dramatic representations                            of the Good Friday message have linked us to a very                            deep sadness and sacredness. Uncooperative smoke and                            sparklers, stuck slides, music played at the wrong time,                            all little hick ups in Easter Saturday night liturgies                            of which I&#8217;ve had some responsibility but it&#8217;s all OK                            at Redfern. It&#8217;s the people not the performance, the                            effort not the effect that seems to really matter.<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">There                            have been times of political crisis, for example, the                            aftermath of the <\/span><st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">East                            Timor<\/span><\/st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">                            elections and the <\/span><st1:city><st1:place><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">Tampa<\/span><\/st1:place><\/st1:city><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">                            incident, when I have felt a deep heaviness of heart                            and alienation from mainstream society and its values.                            Coming to Redfern has been crucial for me in those times,                            in order to feel a connection with kindred spirits,                            both from a political and religious dimension. In one                            of Edmund Campion&#8217;s books I recently came across a quote                            by the poet, James McAuley, that states, &ldquo;Why should                            you think because my bishop is a liar and a schemer                            that this somehow disproves the fact that Christ rose                            from the dead?&rdquo; Without making any suggestion that the                            same could be said for any current holder of episcopal                            office, I know that Redfern parish does help me believe                            in the resurrection, because firstly it helps me annunciate                            and share in the crucifixion. Redfern is not a place                            &#8211; it is an ongoing experience. You carry it with you,                            but at times it grabs you, whether you want it to or                            not. On a very damp Tuesday, I had left work early in                            order to go to Mum Shirl&#8217;s funeral in the cathedral,                            dressed in appropriate professional\/funeral garb. I                            met many of my front of church aboriginal friends on                            the train. They, with a bottle or two, greeted me warmly                            and made sure the whole carriage knew we were mates.                            When we got to St James station, my partly accidental                            separation from them was quickly ended as my mates ensured                            that I was found and didn&#8217;t have to enter the lofty                            portals of St Mary&#8217;s Cathedral alone. Funerals are an                            important part of Redfern and we have grieved together                            at the loss of vital members of the community like Dorothy,                            or their loved ones <\/span>like Beth&#8217;s son Michael.<o:p><\/o:p><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\">Beside the                            funerals there have been some great christenings. Everything                            from the beautifully, thoughtfully scripted with sensitive                            symbolism, music and booklet to the more spontaneous                            style where the family mayor may not turn up on the                            appointed day (perhaps responding to the influence of                            the Holy Spirit or spirits of some other kind). For                            a long timer like me, I look around the Church and feel                            a real connection with so many of these children and                            adolescents because I shared in their welcome into our                            community. (I would even be prepared to sign an appropriate                            stat dec. if ever there is some question of the whereabouts                            of their baptismal records or certificates.) Redfern                            has of course also been the setting for some great weddings                            and in the case of four couples that I can think off,                            played the Yvonne Allen introduction agency role itself.                            We know quite confidently, that for those couples married                            at Redfern, it wasn&#8217;t the length of the aisle, the &ldquo;appealing&rdquo;                            interior or the photo opportunities that attracted them.                            My mother came with me to one of those weddings at a                            time when the Church was looking at its best. Months                            later she asked politely whether the renovations were                            finished yet. (I think it was probably the floor coverings                            that she had in mind.) There was even a Sunday when                            the building itself asked for help. A sharp wooden slat                            from the roof landed next to the altar, not long after                            communion was completed.<o:p><\/o:p><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\">My work and                            much of my network of friends and colleagues, is in                            a totally secular context, so Redfern is a part of my                            life that many of those people know nothing about. A                            number of years ago the 7.30 Report, with its great                            close up shots of me, did its best to change all that.                            I felt &ldquo;outed&rdquo; (don&#8217;t believe what they say about low                            ABC ratings) but it did lead to some interesting discussions&#8230;<o:p><\/o:p><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\">During my                            times of absence from Redfern, largely through travel                            or illness, I have done my calculations with time zones                            and worked out that it is roughly <st1:time minute=\"0\" hour=\"10\">10                            am<\/st1:time>, Sunday at Redfern <span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">&#8211;                            mass time. Even though I&#8217;m not there, I know people                            are gathering to share bread and stories and I&#8217;m somehow                            with them in spirit. When I was in hospital, at about                            that time on a Sunday, a kind soul from a local parish                            gave me the gift of a <\/span><span class=\"BodyTextItalicChar\"><span style=\"\"><em>Catholic                            Weekly, <\/em><\/span><\/span><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">but                            somehow reading it just didn&#8217;t provide quite the same                            experience. When I have been sick, the support from                            the Redfern community has been wonderful. My recent                            attempt to make some sense of my time of serious illness                            in writing has been deeply influenced by my years at                            Redfern and could only have come to completion because                            I had an encouraging community to write it for and trustingly                            share it with. Redfern is about continuity and the long                            haul but it is also illustrated by some special moments                            and images such as &shy;-<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Watching two males, obviously in                            a relationship, smile openly at each other as they sang                            Peter Kearney&#8217;s line &ldquo;Peaceful and joyful and gay&#8217;.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Being there when Eileen, the community                            matriarch, read the Eucharistic prayer.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Seeing the simple altar, the bearer                            of the Eucharist but also of pamphlets, petitions and                            plates of the best Passover Iamb you could ever eat.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Observing the inclusion of the                            slightly crazy and those that wander in and out whether                            they be human, canine or feathered.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Delighting in seeing Veronica Green                            sitting on the soft seat knowing that for her, with                            her cancerous bones, it was a triumph of her will over                            pain.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><\/span><\/span>Sharing the sign of &ldquo;piss&rdquo; with                            Charitha<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>The visit of our Muslim friends                            with its spirit of friendship, new life but deep sorrow.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Listening to the sharing of news,                            protest rally dates and requests for help which naturally                            conclude the mass.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Relaxing with a serious coffee                            and an RC (Redfern Chum), whether it was the old Greek                            laminex tabled milk bar, the trendy Second Cup or more                            recently Cafe Cana.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: Symbol;\"><span style=\"\"><span style=\"font-family: 'Times New Roman'; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal; font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal;\"><\/span><\/span><\/span>Getting together at someone&#8217;s home                            for lunch, drinks or a book club meeting. At these times                            there has been a sharing of stories, hot cross buns                            or profound insights, just depending on the mood.<o:p><\/o:p><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/div>\n<div align=\"justify\">                           <\/div>\n<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\"><span lang=\"EN-AU\" style=\"\">There                            are days like the birthday, book launch and anniversary                            parties for Ted, that have been absolutely wonderful.                            Full of vibrancy, warmth, new, close and long lost friends.                            The atmosphere and people, providing a reminder of the                            rich tapestry of life, its consecutiveness and the sheer                            joy of celebration. There are more normal Sundays, full                            of humour, reality and spontaneity. There are other                            days when the experience is very discordant or jarring,                            where the aching pain of an individual or group has                            been overwhelming and I&#8217;ve left the church feeling a                            deep sadness or frustration but somehow more in touch                            with what it is to be fully human. So for me Redfern                            is about relationships and reality. It&#8217;s about being                            real within those relationships and it&#8217;s about being                            in relationship with the real.<o:p><\/o:p><\/span><\/p>\n<div align=\"justify\">\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p align=\"justify\" class=\"MsoBodyText\" style=\"margin: 3pt 0cm;\">I have been attending Mass at St Vincent&#8216;s Redfern pretty consistently since 1983. Through my involvement with TCFA (A national Catholic university association) I had meet Ted Kennedy and had contact with his church at Redfern. Since leaving uni, I had lived and taught in the outer urban wilderness of Green Valley and in the underdevelopment of Sri Lanka. Returning to Sydney sick, I went to live with my parents and began going to church at the parish in which I had grown up. Each Sunday I would walk out feeling angry and alienated. 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